Friday, October 24, 2008

The Bad, and the Ugly


Here's the gory stuff, that happened over the past year or so.... maybe it will make you feel better about your life. That's kind of morbid but, Well, I live to serve.....
I wrecked my Malibu a year ago last May, then wrecked my Lumina last month. I'm fine, thank goodness. Geez, it wasn't all my fault, but it is SO inconvenient and SO "unfair!" We had another car who's block cracked a summer ago, so we lost three cars this year. The good thing is two of the three cars and the one we currently have in working order were/are gifts. So the expense is really just convenience so we can deal with that just fine. But it's like....Again?!? REALLY?!?! Why do we have such bad luck with vehicles? Then I think, wait, we have GREAT luck with Vehicles, we keep getting them as gifts!

Kevin's and I are trying for Baby #3 (Girls scare me, but Kevin wants his "Princess" so I'll be happy either way) but so far I've had two miscarriages and then a real surprise...We didn't know it but I had one tubal pregnancy that didn't show up on our radar until it ruptured. Wow that was an adventure. I bled 3 units internally, I had to go into surgery before the docs could find what was actually bleeding...no one could see through all the blood on the scans, so my OBGYN had to open me up a 5 inch tall incision to find the problem. She found the ruptured tube and repaired everything, She was able to save both ovaries and one tube. I had a blood transfusion and here I am a week later walking around feeling alive and fabulous! I'm off work for 5 weeks, and the good part is, I really needed a break from work....and I really needed to shift my priorities. I really needed to spend this time with Cameron, It is so good for me.
These pregnancy losses are disappointing and scary to say the least but we're fine and not discouraged. We can try again in 5 months or so....so we will!

Nathan had some struggles this year too....it started when he got Mono last year and after 4 bouts of strep, he had his tonsils out last November. Then we got him a snowboard for Christmas and consequently hurt himself pretty bad in January. He took a wrong turn and my beginner ended up tumbling down a black diamond run, he had to be transported down the mountain strapped to a board by the emergency team at Snowbird...(Thanks so much you guys, you were amazing!) They were worried about a broken back/neck....he thankfully "just" ended up in a knee splint and shoulder splint for about 6 weeks. But that was hard for him. Then about 2 weeks later, the Mono came back. And this with the injury made school pretty difficult and he missed over 20 days of school in a term. This spiraled him into a pattern of anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. Because this kid aims to please and he was falling behind very fast....After much encouragement from us, counseling and some depression medication and a great summer AWAY from school, :) he's doing much better. Now that we're back in school, he's doing much better, this pic is Nathan's first day of 8th grade, and he sprained his wrist two days before school started!

Nathan's whole experience coupled with Cameron potty training, and in his Terrible 3's and needing endless attention. Kevin working and in school full time, me working full time and trying to be everything to everyone. It was hard to keep Nathan from feeling overwhelmed and guilty about needing so much of my help. I tried to keep him happy and positive and caught up on school work and keep the rest of the family happy too. It was hard on me. I had two close friends going though some bad stuff themselves and I wanted to give them a lot of my attention/counseling. After that...I was just too busy for anything else, so extended family, friends, hobbies, church etc got put on the back burner, and now I can't remember what I used to do when had time to do it.

Though I haven't finished paying off the tonsils, MRI's, three of my surgeries, a ambulance ride, counseling, & medications, the bills are hanging over my head, tapping me on the shoulder, I keep telling them, "I know, I know!" You'd think my company would garnish my wages since it's them I owe the money to.
Anyway, in May....
Cameron's babysitter whom we loved SO much had to suddenly stop doing daycare, so this was a big blow to us and to Cameron, we had to find someone else, but no one is a good as Michelle was to Cameron, we miss her! Just as an example, I would drop Cameron off at Michelle's and he couldn't WAIT to go to her house, I didn't have to give him a second thought when I was at work. This was because I was SO comfortable with her, and knew she would take great care of him, I know she loved him. Now that he's in a new place, I can't get Cameron off my mind while I'm at work.

Then....At the risk of sounding like I’m in third grade and crying while chasing after a moving van...... carrying away my best friend….My best friend Allison moved to Montana.
Lame.
My other fabulous friend, Dan, moved to Arizona.
Lame.

To be honest, it was hard for me to think of all the hard stuff.... I had to ask, "Honey, what crappy stuff happened to us in the last year and a half?"

I guess that's good, I don't really like to stay upset about stuff I can't change, it's not attractive. :)

But maybe you'll understand us a bit more, and feel reassured, like we have something in common. We're struggling too! Gas prices, food prices! Medical bills! Working our behinds off and feeling like we're not getting ahead....ick. But here's something I've learned....we will make it! Don't worry about stuff you can't change, and just move ahead, PLOW ahead. Don't get in debt, Do everything you can to prepare your home and family for emergencies. Don't look back, and don't panic. You'll be okay. We'll be okay!

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